How Not to Get Scammed on the Internet

Lately, I’ve been noticing a lot of scams on the internet. Specifically online shopping scam sites. According to, people fall for these scams all the time. As an avid online shopper, and eBayer, I’m hyper-aware of scams on the internet. Some are obvious and some are more subtle.  Since scam sites do not seem to be going away anytime soon, here’s how to recognize internet shopping scams.


1. If the price is too good to be true, it probably is. 

Many scam sites pride themselves on “lower prices”. However, many people find when they order from a scam website they either don’t receive what they paid for, or they have extra charges on their credit cards. Most Toms Shoes pins on Pinterest lead to scam sites. Be wary of offers of ‘cheap’ products, and ‘outlet’ prices.

Only some of MANY Fake Toms Shoes website links found on Pinterest

Only some of MANY Fake Toms Shoes website links found on Pinterest


2. Whenever going on a site, always check out the ‘About Us’ and ‘FAQ’ pages. If it sounds wrong, it is. Also be aware of any misspellings or typos.

Genuine websites will not have any misspellings or typos.


3. Know where the product is coming from. 

Be wary of international sellers. You might be receiving  an inauthentic product, or fall victim to identity theft.


4. Pay attention to the URL. 

A lot of scam webpages look eerily similar to the business they are trying to defraud.

Fake Lululemon Site

Fake Lululemon Site

Real Website

Real Website







Know the URL of the website you are on. Fraud sites will always have a different URL to the real one. Numbers (e.g. 2014), Sale and Cheap are a few watch words to know if you have come across a fraudulent website.


5. If you are unsure of the website, use PayPal. 


6. Don’t trust the ‘VeriSign Secured’ images. 

It is way too easy to add a Secured website or BBB Accredited business image to a webpage. footIf you see the above images on a site you are not sure about, do not automatically trust it because of these images. If you want to make sure a business is accredited, search for it on the BBB website, here.


If all else fails and you are still unsure, go to the ‘Contact Us’ page and give the business a call. Don’t send an email, call and speak with a person. Genuine webpages will have a customer service number that you can call.

It is all too easy to fall prey to scams on the internet, but by paying close attention  you can avoid the trouble that giving fraudulent websites your personal information can bring.


Gah I don’t even have a name for this one…

I tend to avoid shopping fan sites. Yes, some stores have fan sites. But I avoid them because the women on those sites tend to be…nutter butters.

The women say they hate the store (yes hate), they say they’re over it, but the very next week they are spending hundreds of thousands of dollars and the cycle continues. What’s the definition of insanity again?

J. Crew owes me. I’ve spent a lot of money there over the past 10 years. I want them to sell things that I like. If they don’t to hell with them. I won’t shop there anymore. (Well really I will buy and then complain weekly on J. Crew Aficionada).

I’m a loyal customer! I deserve it! I deserve free UPS shipping,

And if they don’t. I hope they go out of business. Even if that means thousands of jobs. Since I’ve spent so much money and invested so much time in jcrew over the years


Skinny Women are Evil (Unless You Are One)


I know I’m late (what else is new?) but comedienne Mo’Nique has recently lost a lot of weight. I mean a lot of weight. I’m talking 82lbs folks. And she did it all through hard work and dieting. My first thought was ‘good for her!’ My second thought was, ‘Wait, isn’t this the same Mo’Nique that was waging a war against skinny girls all the while waxing philosophical about how happy she was with her size?’

Why, yes, yes it is.

Now I never liked Mo’Nique for this exact reason. I think it’s completely ridiculous to generalize a group of people based on their looks. And Mo’Nique did this. A lot.

In 2001, at the Queens of Comedy show Mo’Nique came out with a Big Bang.

She goes on to exclaim:

“Godt-dammit[sic] big women, Alright big girl you’d better represent it godt-dammit[sic]. You’d better do it, ya [sic] fat ass. I love ya baby-girl, you handle yo[sic] shit. Fuck you skinny bitches, Na! Fuck you skinny anorexic bulimic motha-fuckas [sic], what?!….Look at ‘er[sic] shakin’, bitch cause ya hungry…Skinny women are evil and they need to be destroyed, baby.”

Ummm yeah… It gets worse.

Skinny Women Are Evil: Notes of a Big Girl in a Small-Minded World

Skinny Women Are Evil: Notes of a Big Girl in a Small-Minded World

Skinny Cooks Can't Be Trusted: In the Kitchen with Mo'Nique

Skinny Cooks Can’t Be Trusted: In the Kitchen with Mo’Nique

Books, Movies and stand up fodder. Mo’Nique has made her career on the backs of “skinny” women. Excuse me if it rings a bit insincere that she’s now working so hard to be on the team.


Look who’s a skinny b*** now.

Madame CJ Walker is Rolling in Her Grave, Y’all

Lol… JK.
But seriously.

Let’s talk about job interviews, pretend you are interviewing for a job, and you wore a red suit the interview. And all the interviewer can think about is your suit. And you may be a great candidate but no one knows because your suit is doing all the talking. This is exactly how I feel about Fox Sportscaster Pam Oliver. Recently (before the Super Bowl), Ms. Oliver “spoke out” against nay-sayers. The video is after the jump.


Pam Oliver, your hair looked bad. Period. Inherently, this statement is not about race nor gender, I would say the same thing about Erin Andrews or anyone else. There have been many a time where I’ve talked about male sportscasters needing stylists. So how come Pam Oliver is above criticism? According to this huffpost article, it’s because she’s black.

I don’t know about you, but my entire life, the women in my family have told me that since I am black female I have to be twice as good. Everything must be on point. Not only am I good at my job, I look good too. And I’m not even on tv!

People today are way too comfortable being who they are, flaws and all instead of trying to be the best person they can be. Especially if their employers are lining up a younger woman to take their place.

Part of being a professional is looking good. It may not be fair, but that’s the way things are. Ms. Oliver seems to understand this, but between the NFC Championship and the Super Bowl, nothing changed. Another major football game, another bad wig. Being great at your job and caring about your appearance are not mutually exclusive. My grandma worked my three jobs and always managed to have her hair done.

Pam Oliver has been in journalism almost 20 years, and to be the only black female sportscaster during Super Bowl XLVIII is commendable. She is very well spoken and great at what she does. But that is where the compliments end. Pam, no one is policing your hair, or your right to wear your hair the way you want to. Just stop buying $10 wigs. It’s not complicated, racial conversations need not be had.

The Wine, the Witch and the Wardrobe

Alcohol and I have been getting along. Usually, I get a headache after one mixed drink. Lately, however, I’ve been tending bar in my kitchen. How did I go from alcohol n00b to home bartender? 1) Crate and Barrel and 2)

First, I picked up one of these babies.


Yes, these are the wine glasses from ABC’s Scandal. A show I no longer watch. But they’re still awesome wine glasses.


I also picked up one of these.


Decanting or aerating your wine before drinking definitely makes a difference. Especially if you tend to drink cheaper wines (no shame!).


No wine glass collection would be complete without the actual wine. To start out, I’ve been trying out different Cupcake Wines.

My favorites so far are the Angel Food and the Red Velvet varieties. Both are delicious and very unique. And at $9.99, I can afford to always have a couple bottles on hand.

On the cocktail side of things, I picked up some Cocktail glasses from Crate and Barrel and went to YouTube in order to learn various drinks.

I also downloaded the Perfect Drink app for the iPhone. The app has a bunch of great recipes so I highly recommend it.

My favorite recipe has got to be the Raspberry Truffle. Recipe is down below.


Raspberry Truffle
1/2 oz. Chambord
1/2 oz. Creme de Cacao (I use Godiva Dark Chocolate Liqueur as a substitute)
1 oz heavy cream

In a cocktail glass filled with ice, add 1/2 shot of Chambord and 1/2 shot of Creme De Cacao. Fill with cream or milk. Garnish with a Hershey’s Kiss or chocolate shavings.